Does anyone actually like getting older? There are things in life that can get really better as you grow of age. Sex is one such thing! Here are ten things that you’re bound to experience in your thirties as your sexual identity matures.
1. You already know what works for you
The best thing about having sex in your thirties is how you likely have already gone through all the experimental stages of sex. You already know what works for you and what gets your motor running. Now start focusing on perfecting your proverbial craft rather than trying desperately to come to terms with your hormones like all young ones have to.
2. Instructing your partner comes naturally
Whereas sex in the teens and twenties is mostly a matter of trial and error mish-mashed with flurried personal insecurities, in your thirties you’ll likely go about things differently. You now feel more comfortable discussing your wants and needs specifically, and it no longer feels awkward to outright instruct your sex partner. After all, it’s your body and you know it better than anyone else does!
3. Sex is no longer just a drunken afterthought
Remember when most of your first-time fornications were often something that happened as an afterthought to being drunk? Oh, those good old college days! With older age comes a richer understanding, and you actually start enjoying having sober sex. In fact, you may sometimes realise you prefer having sex when you’re sober, since it helps you connect with your partner…
4. You learn to value intimacy over sex
That’s right, when you push past your thirties, you actually start valuing intimacy more than the mere carnal release that come from casual sex. You still like going wild every once in awhile, but at this point you know the best sexual experiences will happen when there’s a real connection between the participants. You start working towards a connection just as hard as you work to get into the pants of your lover.
5. Realizing that talent trumps looks
When you were young and full of grace, you used to put all the emphasis on how “hot” a person would be. If they looked good to you, you know they’d do the trick. Well, now you’re older and you realise that “doing the trick” takes talent more than it takes good looks. You learn to appreciate technique and finesse even more than you appreciate a fine booty.
6. You accept your body and live with it
This is probably one of the best things about having sex in your thirties: at this point, you are much more comfortable with your body than ever before. The concept of physical shame starts fading away as you come to terms with your body. This gives you confidence and makes your sensuality run deeper than your image, adding depth to your sexual satisfaction.
7. Choosing a good night’s sleep over random booty calls
At some point in your thirties, you’re likely to start rolling your eyes at the prospect of unannounced booty calls. What used to always feel exciting and adventurous now will sometimes feel like a waste of a good night’s sleep – especially if you have to wake up early to go to work.
8. You redefine what “exploring new grounds” means
Once upon a time, being sexually adventurous involved having sex with different people in different places. In your thirties, though, having outdoors sex will sometimes look like an unnecessary adventure. When you think of exploring new grounds you now think of trying new positions and sex toys that will further improve how well you understand and enjoy your body.
9. You realize how being patient can be very rewarding
As you grow older you always realise how the best things in life comes to those who are patient, and this philosophy naturally seeps into your sex life. You start valuing foreplay more, as well as courtship and affection. Only fools rush in, and you’re now a bit wiser in your approach to sex.